Clouds Over Oskaloosa, Clouds In My Head
I’ve been spending the last week sitting by a 12′ X 3′ double pane glass window: My view is 1/3 grass, 1/3 white-washed brick wall, 1/3 sky. Running through my mind as I stare at the sky are 1/2 pleasant, 1/2 troubling.
The pleasant thoughts are of my impending retirement–one more year of teaching. The anticipation of spending more time with my parents are foremost in my mind. Taking my mother to shows, foreign films (haha–in Pensacola??–not a chance), and nice restaurants are the things she misses most since my father is now wheel-chair bound and the things I can do with her.
I have pleasant thoughts of traveling abroad with Dapper G–it’s what we have striven for all these years. Sailing around the Mediterranean to the Greek Isles, revisiting Alaska, diving in Tahiti, sports fishing off of Madeira and Australia, climbing Machu Pichu–these are just some of the places on our travel bucket list.
But my troubled thoughts are of my parents. Will we have to move to Florida temporarily to watch over the folks as they get closer to their 90s? What will the quality of their life be like within the next few years? These are all questions that countless Baby Boomers like me are faced with today. (My in-laws are 92 & 90.)
When I walk the halls of this specialty care center, I know that I could never leave my parents in a nursing facility: across the hall a woman is moaning loudly, two people are lying on their gurneys in the hallway with all their privates exposed, the smell of medicines permeate the air and are nauseating, the sterile rooms are depressing. But it’s the empty stares that trouble me most.
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Fact:MCLEAN, Va., June 17 (UPI) — Most baby boomers, though likely to handle parents’ care, are ill-informed, but new information can help, a U.S. government agency says.